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Don’t like gay marriages?

By Sparky | June 25, 2007

Don’t like gay marriages? Then don’t get one!

I saw that quote on a bumper sticker while driving in to work this morning and it started me thinking about being gay and what it means to me on pride weekend: not that much. Last year Brien and I celebrated pride with a Silence of the Lambs marathon, and this year in similar suit I managed to avoid pride in a far more solitary fashion by spending time with Scot and Brien then playing Civilization 4 (and conquering the world) much of the weekend.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m gay and “proud” of it, but to me the gay pride celebrations that occur world wide every June have nothing to do with pride, and instead focus on making it into a homosexual freakshow of sorts. I’ve ‘been gay’ (or at least been old enough to know it) for more than 15 years now, and the older I get the more I realize that my sexual orientation is pretty much meaningless. Sure I’m gay, I date men, am emotionally attracted to men, and find (some) men’s bodies highly sexually attractive, but to sum up my entire being as nothing more than a primitive urge to breed (although a slightly misguided one from an evolutionary standpoint) seems to trivialize all of my other qualities that I value like my intelligence, vision of the future of humanity, wit, charm, outlook, adaptability, and all sorts of other qualities that seem far more important than merely being gay.

Being gay or straight is such a small fraction of what makes a person who they are – it’s not even something you have a choice about – it makes that throwing a parade about being gay is almost offensive. Why not have a red hair parade, a left handed celebration, a jubilee for the tall, a gala for the short? Heck, let’s ditch the gay pride parade in favor of things that people have a choice about – something you can be proud for: a parade for computer programmers, a festival for lovers of the color teal, or a cavalcade for Scrabble lovers world wide.

Now don’t get me wrong – I realize that throughout history gays have been downtrodden and outright persecuted against , but so have almost every social group at one point or another; regardless of if the groups difference is a chosen one or not. Women, black people, Hispanic people, Jewish people, the Gypsies, all sorts of people who didn’t choose their lot in life have suffered from society in recent times. We as species need to become more open and embracing of every living being regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, or any other minor differences, but part of being open and embracing of someone different is to treat them the same as you would treat yourself – no differently. Just because someone is different does not mean we need to celebrate that difference and throw a parade for that difference, just be aware of the difference and move on to the goal of uniting humanity through progress and technology before we wipe ourselves out and become just another historical blip in the cosmic history book.

We’re here, we’re queer, who cares!

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Topics: Daily grind, Events | 3 Comments »

3 Responses to “Don’t like gay marriages?”

  1. veo Says:
    June 25th, 2007 at 8:46 am

    While I agree more or less with your whole post I think that you may be forgetting that we live in an egalitarian bubble, mostly insulated from the harsh realities of the ‘moral majority’ of America.

    I think its great that you can look beyond all race/gender/orientation and see each individual’s underlying qualities..and I’d like to think that I view people the same way. But the sad fact is that we’re the leading edge of the cultural curve and 99% of the population isnt on board with that attitude, yet.

    So I say let the out and proud’ers have their parade. Live and let live, right? You’re not compelled to participate becuase you’re gay…why does it matter to you? It’s not hurting anyone and just maybe it will change a handful attitudes.

  2. George Says:
    June 25th, 2007 at 4:58 pm

    I would like to tell the previous commenter to shut the fuck up.

  3. Sparky Says:
    June 25th, 2007 at 5:01 pm

    Veo: I’m not sure I disagree with your third paragraph – I don’t think it’s something you can ignore. It turns homosexuality into a freak show teeming with drag queens and overly sexual deviants who will fuck at the drop of a hat. Particularly in less progressive areas (boy am I glad I live in Seattle) I could see a spectacle like a gay pride parade reinforcing bad stereotypes and giving homophobic assholes more ammunition about the “gay agenda”.

    I’ll agree that raising awareness of equal rights may be a good idea, but we should really show off what the real gay culture is: the same thing as straight culture, only with more penis, and less vagina.